"Letting Go" to Feel of the Horse
Learning to ride and becoming clear in the mechanics of aid usage to communicate can be a challenge in itself. It is also what a majority of folks limit their riding goals to. The experience tends to focus solely about the human feeling "success."
But for those seeking connection, balance, and fluidity, they have to physically "let go" of any gripping, holding, bracing, making, leveraging, blocking, or constantly driving the horse with pressure.
The willingness and connected feel of the horse comes from "letting go" of containing him to feel his feedback, acknowledge it without criticism, and address it, without it becoming a fight.
The "with-you-ness" of the equine partner- where the rider feels they have options to ask anything at any time- and horse offers to willingly try without fear- comes from the human mentally "letting go" of or replacing hopeful, passive, reactive communication with having mental presence and proactive interaction with the equine.
Finding the peaceful, calm, quiet, and softness in the horse experience comes from the human "letting go" of their emotional chaos, anticipation, and distraction before they are ever in proximity to the horse.
"Letting go" of self-imposed or society's have-tos, allows for unexpected Opportunities to arise that often become some of the most valued and trust-building experiences for both the human and the horse.