Horseback Rider Fear & Anxiety- What if I don't do "it" right?

What if I don't do it "right?"

Over the years of helping a variety of riders of all ages, backgrounds, disciplines, and experiences, I get asked this same question as they strive to improve their equine partnerships.
Horses have an incredible ability to recognize the human's intention whether a person is in close proximity or not.
The "story" of self-doubt in the rider/handler's head, diminishes their ability to stay present, and communicate in "real-time" with the horse.
Even if the aids are not totally clear, or the timing is slightly off, the clearer and more specific the intention, the greater chance the horse has to address what is being presented.
Experimenting, assessing, and refining understanding of the horse's response and communication is a continuously evolving journey.
Let go of the anticipation, distraction, and self-doubt. Replace it with short, specific, segmented communication with clear intent, and take time to assess the horse's feedback. This helps clarify what to address next to refine the Conversations and build trust in the equine.

Things Horses Spook At... and why the dramatic response

Alternative Horsemanship the Remote Horse Coach shares common encounters or scenarios that cause many horses to spook. Rather than seeing the dramatic response from the horse a the issue, it is often reflecting the degree of the equine's mental and emotional containment. Subscribe for the upcoming Dear Sam: Horse Help Episode addressing this "issue" in depth.

When the Horse Sales Advertisement Lies- Vicious Cycles and Dangerous Equines

Alternative Horsemanship the Remote Horse Coach shares the vicious cycle of passing off the dangerous horse to unsuspecting horse buyers and the unnecessary trauma and fear that follows.

Dear Sam: Horse Help Horsemanship Series *Horses, Humans, & Pressure

Horses, Pressure, & Tight Spaces I see many people trying to teach the horse new things and feeling like it becomes a chaotic, overwhelming, and potentially fearful experience for both the horse and the human. 

Here are a few tips to help break things down so that the learning becomes quality and clear so the horse can retain the new experience. 

I view training as establishing a common language between human and horse, that has value to the equine. 

Then when expanding the animal's exposure and experience by using clear "language," it becomes confidence-building Opportunities rather than ones leading to defensiveness and fear in the equine. 

When this BLM mustang was adopted after the round-up, she found herself in a home where they attempted to "break her." The elderly gentleman who had her then passed away, and at that point, she was uncatchable and untouchable. When I first met her, from a 100' away if I slightly lifted a finger she would bolt off. It took a lot of time, patience, and helping her reawaken her curiosity, to diminish her fear so that she could start to become mentally available to learn how to learn.

Helping the Highly Reactive Horse with the Remote Horse Coach

Mid-week thoughts... Someone was asking about a highly reactive Thoroughbred and how to fix his spooking issues, even after he had been at a trainer for two months.

Horsemanship Tools- Unintentional Weaponizing Creating Fearful Horses

 Weaponizing Horsemanship "Tools"

"It" has been called a variety of names, has multiple different styles, and in the name of imitation without understanding, so many good intentioned horse people are using "it" in a destructive, aggressive, critical manner teaching the horse fear, flee, containment, and defensiveness.

Dangerous, Dramatic, Reactive, Anticipative, Fearful Horses

 It isn't Convenient

When the horse is...

Resistant to being caught

Constantly pulling when led

Pulls back or gets stressed when tied

Always moving away when trying to tack up

Steps away when trying to mount

Walks off as soon as the rider is in the saddle

Is drifting, bracing, or anticipative when ridden

Takes "awhile" to load into the trailer

Might explode out during the trailer unloading

Is "buddy" or barn "sour"

Has the same "issue" with the same scary spot repeatedly

Offers dramatic behaviors when something unexpected arises

Paws, paces, cribs, weaves, wall kicks, bites while in his enclosure

Is aggressive towards other horses or at feed time

Etc., etc., etc.

Every single unwanted unfortunately common horse behavior above, is a symptom.

Most people try to band-aid the symptom by adding more pressure to the already fearful and defensive equine.

Then one unwanted behavior morphs into another because the root cause was never addressed.

The horse that is left living in a state of constant fear and anticipation because they are defensive toward human interaction leads to mental and physical trauma.

It isn't a matter of "if" they explode, get hurt, or injure the human, but when.

Please stop ignoring the subtle, reasonable behaviors the horse conveys reflecting his fear and defensiveness.

Please start prioritizing slowing down, breaking down the communication to offer short, specific, clear, supportive, and non-critical information that has meaning to the horse.

The horse is not trying to wreck your day, annoy you, psych you out, etc.

The only thing he is trying to do is find a safe space. If every time you show up you bring chaos, distraction, hurried behaviors, anticipation, and unclear communication, what are you teaching him?

To get the Change in the horse, first we must start with the Human.

Dear Sam: Horse Hep *Dangerous Equine Behavior

Alternative Horsemanship with Samantha Harvey the Remote Horse Coach shares how dramatic and dangerous horse behavior is a symptom, how to recognize the initial subtle signs of fear, defensiveness, or anticipation in the equine, and why it matters to address it early, rather than ignoring it and creating the dangerous horse.

 Dear Sam: Horse Help Horsemanship Series *Dangerous Equine Behavior

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