Unasked for Horse Advice- More Harm than Good

The stress of unsolicited advice can be crippling for so many horse people.

 Whether it is offered from trainers, a spouse, equine friends, barn mates, the input can diminish the enjoyment of time spent with the horse and the opportunity to learn. The rhetoric of "you should be," or "make him," or "you're going to teach him," can distract from the handler/rider's ability to stay present. The unasked for input can create a judgmental time pressure that causes the person and their horse to become defensive, have frustrating, emotionally overwhelming experiences, and be potentially "bullied" into dangerous situations because of the critique.

 Imposing, critical, unasked for horse advice often does more damage than good. So many people wind up experiencing continual stress from imposed opinions that cause them to have self-doubt, feel isolated, and cause them to avoid being with their horse. Until a person is asking for help, please remember they may not be ready to hear what you were offering. 

I've had a lot of private messages regarding what about in situations where safety concerns in a scenario and offered input. As with everything, there is a time and place. In this video, I'm referring to general scenarios where others feel they have the right to impose their opinion. In-Person learning Distance Coaching and Consultations , or  Online Horsemanship Video Catalogue