Building Confident Horses

Confidence- just because a horse is going through the motions of "doing things" and is "learning" does not mean that he is gaining confidence and feeling secure from his experiences.

The horse may "quietly" tolerate a situation a few or even many times before he starts to show more obvious signs of stress, insecurity, or fear about what is being presented if he is being pushed to physically comply with the task presented.

A great example is the famous "wet saddle blankets" theory. Does a horse learn better through numerous physical repetition? If the person is solely focused on the physical movement/tolerance of the horse, without assessing the quality of his mental availability- or willingness- and the softness of his movement, they may not realize that repeating something is making things worse for the horse and teaching him to be defensive in the future.

I'll use an example presented in human terms. Let's say you were fearful of heights, and I brought you to a tall cliff, asking you to jump into the lake below.

If I kept verbally asking you, and you kept trying to tell me how scared or uncomfortable you were, and I ignored your words how would that make you feel? More prone to jump in the water or physically start to tighten your body, (think brace,) experience a shortness of breath due to anticipation and perhaps your mind would be racing as to various potential outcomes.

So if I realized my words didn't help, what if I then stood behind you and started "prodding you" with a finger in your back? Each time I pushed you towards the lake, you'd probably lean back into the pressure of my hand, and away from the lake. Would this help you change your emotional concerns about heights or jumping in? No.

So then, if that didn't work. what if I started to get busier in pushing on you, using both hands and with a stronger force? At some point, you'd probably get irritated enough that your initial subtle "quiet" physical tension or resistance of just standing there locking up your body, would evolve into perhaps you lashing out physically, towards me, to get me to go away...

Would this approach ever help change how you felt about the scenario? And even if I irritated you enough to get you to jump, what would you feel like the next time I brought up jumping in again? You'd perhaps come up with every reason to avoid or prevent it from happening because of how stressful the previous emotional experience was.

But what if initially when I realized you were scared of heights, I brought you down to stand three inches above the water. And we slowly practiced you putting one foot in the water and then back out. And as you got more confident that you could take your foot out, and you felt better balance, and the water didn't seem so far, when I asked could you hop in with both feet, you could do so pretty relaxed mentally, emotionally, and physically.

Then if you said, "Well that wasn't so bad," what if I asked how about we try from six inches? And what if each jump you made, you started feeling not so focused on the anticipation of the height, but rather the feeling of landing in the water that was cool and refreshing and felt kind of good?

And then what if we went and did something else, while you still had that positive mental and emotional feeling. We may come back to the lake on a different day, and what do you think you'd feel? Perhaps not so anticipative, or concerned, and you might even be able to "offer" jumping from that six-inch spot or even foot height, without me having to ask you to do so.

So by me compromising, by me BELIEVING and addressing your fear, worry, and concern, by me presenting the "big" picture in small, specific segments, by me presenting a small amount of pressure, but offering you a release, that was realistic and attainable for your current mental and emotional state, did I build your confidence or diminish it? Was I supportive or critical? So even though I initially presented something outside of your comfort zone, were you better or more confident about the experience or not?

And this is the same for our horses and our partnership with them. My theory is to first create tools to clearly and specifically support them in our conversations, and then head out and put those quality wet saddle blanket "miles" on your horse.